With all the discussion around this, I thought of penning this one down. The bottom line is, I’ve always struggled with my stance on being a girl in geek worlds.
Growing up, I was always alone. My bullies of 7 years were girls. I was an easy target as one of the few smaller, quieter girls. The pressure those bullies exerted on me caused all of the other girls to not have anything to do with me.
Boys were still afraid of cooties, so when they were too kind to me, they would face the wrath of their peers. I spent many after schools as a child with my imagination, and later my machines.
Not too long ago
I’ve gone to geek events alone where I’ve purposely dressed down in a hobo outfit to draw less unwanted attention to myself.
Even in these hobo outfits, many of the interactions I had networking there were an awkward mix of people trying to hire me or ask me out. Sometimes both at the same time.
At some point, it was so much hassle I stopped going to events alone. Soon enough, with the dependency of having to have a buddy every time, I stopped being interested in said events.
Raising a voice means having to continue to stand up.
I’ve only told these stories to friends, because saying something out loud instantly gets a girl labeled.
In the spirit of yearly resolutions, this is going to change. If I could make it so a few more girls feel less alone and more welcomed growing up into the geek world, it’ll all be worthwhile.
Meta – What prompted this…
This amazing article on Marketing to Female Geeks and this hashtag.